Transferring your belongings from one location to another is indeed a daunting task for adults. Moving your base from one city to another is not a part of an adventurous activity. Listing your to-do list, organizing your stuff, packing all the household appliances and loading things into the moving truck does not enthrall any people. On the contrary, the entire process of moving zaps your energy and makes your move drab. Moving causes disturbance in a person’s stable life. When moving can be painstaking for adults, it is a lot more tormenting for children. Generally, children are reluctant to move. Your kid’s reluctance to move creates a traumatic reaction in your kid’s brain. Mostly, children are not friendly to any kind of changes happening in their life. They like to be in their own world; hence, they do not adapt changes in their life.
After having moved to a new home, many kids develop unknown phobia, bouts of anxiety, depression and anxiety. The symptoms shown by your kids are often perceived and understood by parents. But, there are certain behavioral signs which are not noticed by the elders in the family. Have you observed the cranky nature of your kid? Why is your kid throwing temper tantrums for no reason? What is the reason behind your child’s agitation? Why does not your kid open up to the outside world? It is imperative for the family members to discuss with their kids about the move in advance, so that the kids be familiar with the process of moving.
Irrespective of parent’s breaking the news of move and involving their child in the moving process, it has been observed that the child shows resentful attitude after shifting in a new residence. Parents face problems in dealing with the child’s changed behavior. Depending on your child’s age, parents need to figure out and understand the unexpected behavioral changes of their children. What signs are generally revealed by your kids? Have an overview of the article to know the seven vital signs expressed by your kid.
Factors Associated With Inconvenient Attitude
There are several factors which make your child inconvenient with the move.
- The term ‘moving’ creates an unknown fear in a kid’s mind. A child develops fear of losing parents, grandparents and friends.
- The thought of moving to a new abode makes your child depressed. The separation from their closed ones, toys and favorite stuff makes them lose interest from their best-loved activities.
- Adjusting in a new environment and new school makes a child reluctant and stubborn to move in a new place.
- The mood swings in your child are mainly because of relocation.
- Children are not flexible with the changes in their daily routine.
Psychology Of A Child Pertaining To A Move
Not all children behave in a similar manner after moving to a new community. Older children tend to adapt and accept the situation after making them understand in a proper manner. Younger kids take time to react positively trait and age, the child’s temperament and thought process change accordingly. A child does not respond to the stress connected with the move. A kid’s psychological behavior and some other signs disclose their inconvenience with the move. Disruption of routine or separation from the prized possessions makes a negative impact on a child’s behavioral patterns. Seven pivotal signs which show your child is not comfortable with relocation. What are they? Have a look at the points mentioned below.
1. Common Negative Behavioral Signs
- Younger kids are likely to develop the habit of clinginess
- No desire for food
- Habits related to lip-licking, thumb-sucking, nail-biting and so on
- Issues related to bed wetting
- Excessive shyness and introvert attitude
2. Lack Of Interest About The Move
Children do not participate in discussions in regards to the move with their family members. Upon asked about their opinion on move, kids do not express their feelings or interest and try to avoid the talks on the subject. The enthusiasm of shifting in a new home seems to have missed in kids. You will notice that they will change the topic of move and bring up other topics to keep them distracted.
Avoiding the subject on move is one of the signs which portray your kid’s unwillingness to shift in a new location. It also shows that the kids are not adjusting themselves with the move. In such a situation, help your child to express their pent-up feelings and inculcate the interest and positive sides of move in their minds.
Make your kids understand the moving process by way of showing images and pictures. Generally, kids relate themselves with books and stories. One of the best ways to instill the interest of moving in your kid’s mind is to make them read the books on moving.
3. Your Child Does Not Mix Up With Others
Until you have declared to your child about shifting in a new residence, your child’s behavior was quite jovial and enthusiastic. After the moving news was broken to your kids, you might with others, stop taking interest in outdoor and indoor games, cut off interaction with family members and peers and so on. Your kid’s withdrawal from the near ones is the sign which tells that your kids are not comfortable at the new place. In such a crucial time, parents should make time to talk and know the reasons of their child’s sudden change in behavior. You should try to know your child’s concerns and let your child speak his or her heart out.
4. Irregular And Low Attendance In School
You will get to see that your child avoids going to school or makes excuses in school activities. Low attendance and disinterest in school are the signs that your child is not coping up with the move. Develop the interest of new activities taken up by the school authorities in your child’s mind. Encourage your child to take part in the school curriculum regularly. It is really important if you are moving during a school year.
5. Decline In Grades
Earlier your child was a top scorer. The high grades in your child’s report card used to inflate you with pride. After your kid gets moved to new place, you get to see a low grade in the school report card. The sudden decline of grades could be the reason of not being able to adjust with relocation. Make your child cope up with the new surroundings.
6. Not Inclined Towards New Friends
It usually takes time to make new friends at an unknown place after relocation. Children who have not adjusted themselves in a new surrounding will not take interest in bonding with their peers at school and neighborhood. Hence, kids will disassociate themselves from meeting other children of their age. To help making new friends, you should arrange social gatherings to make your kids interact and mix up with their new mates.
7. No Enthusiasm In Hobbies And Sports
Parents know ins and outs about their child’s likes and dislikes. Things your child used to be so fond of before the move do not appeal them anymore after the move. Rekindle the lost interest for sports and hobby activities in your kids.
Parents should study and understand the psychology of a child during and after the moving process. Try to figure out the reasons connected to a child’s strange behavior and in-adaptable attitude in a new place. However you be occupied in setting up your new abode, you should always make time to find out and sort out the worries dwell in your kid’s mind to make the move enjoyable. Keep in mind the seven signs which project your child’s discomfort on the move. Help your child adjust and grow in a new location.